by Leonore Dicker
 
You’ve just been invited to your friend’s ­–or acquaintance’s– big day. First thing you should do is check your calendar and see whether you can make it or not. Anyone who has planned a wedding knows how important RSVPs are – if you can (or can’t) make it, let them know in a timely manner so that they can plan their wedding accordingly.  Do make sure to ask whether you have a +1 or not. We absolutely discourage you from taking someone with you without having informed the hosts. 
 
Once you’ve saved the date, make sure to organize your travels and accommodation (if needed), as to avoid any unfortunate last minute surprises.
 
If the invitation isn’t completely clear regarding the dress code, do inquire. A real lady never gambles when it comes to style and always dresses appropriately. No matter what, don’t wear white – unless the invitation specifically requests it. This is the bride’s special day and there’s no need to cause any controversy or steal it from her. We strongly recommend that you avoid wearing anything that could remotely resemble bridal wear.
 
Unless you personally know the couple and are aware of a specific present that they would love, stick to the gift list or bring cash. Make sure to give it to them no later than a month after their wedding.
 
During the big day, remember that this is about the newlyweds, and not about you. Have a smile on your face and do not complain about anything at all. A woman who complains is perceived as ungrateful and quite frankly won’t be invited again. In other words: Silence your phone and enjoy yourself.
 
And Remember to:
-Arrive on time
-Be respectful during the ceremony
-Keep your assigned seat
-Introduce yourself to the families of the wedded couple
-Say thank you at the end of the wedding and send a “Thank You” card the following week